Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O.Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. ** ** **

My husband and I have four kids, so there are many appointments to make and keep. We both have full-time jobs, so we split up the responsibilities by category; I get the pediatrician visits, and he does orthodontist and dentist.

The dentist is particularly bad. They have my husband listed as the main contact. He’s the one who makes all the appointments and takes the kids. My name is listed only as an emergency contact — but they still call me with all the reminders and schedule changes.

My husband and I have four kids and very busy lives. We split up the responsibilities and he handles the kid's dental visits. All their records list him as the primary contact, but the always call me.

They've done everything they can to make these offices understand her husband handles these visits, but they're ignored.

My name is listed only as an emergency contact, but they still call me with all the reminders and schedule changes. If I don’t respond, they text me repeatedly.