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A reader wonders why the columnist has a negative view of open relationships. She responds.

"Your negative bias and judgment always come through in a way that makes me think you are not really giving the best feedback."

I am a mental health therapist, and one of my favorite things to do is to read about people’s experiences. Part of that is reading advice columns such as yours. More than once, a person has written about being a part of an open relationship (I’m talking about consensual situations).